Making Gestational Carrier Conversations Less Awkward

Talking Eggs and Sperm

eggs sperm processEngaging in conversations that are full of words like “sperm” and “vaginal delivery” and “abortion” are very awkward for many people, particularly when they don’t know each other very well. Conversations about money and compensation can also be difficult for many. A gestational carrier arrangement often combines two of the most personal aspects of life (reproductive choices and finances) and forces people who often haven’t known each other long to think about and discuss very private topics. This can be extremely challenging.

A gestational carrier agreement allows the parties to negotiate the details of the arrangement one time. They work through the awkwardness in a structured way, and with the assistance of attorneys, so that expectations are clear and in writing, and everyone can focus on a healthy pregnancy and birth.

Topics commonly contained in a gestational carrier agreement include, but are not limited to:

  • Parental rights of the intended parents
  • The way the embryos will be created and the conditions under which they will be implanted
  • The conduct of the carrier during the pregnancy
  • Abortion/Reduction decisions
  • The location of delivery
  • Availability of medical history and information about the carrier
  • Presence of the intended parents at appointments and medical decision-making authority
  • What will happen if the intended parents separate or pass away before the birth
  • Payment of expenses- including medical expenses, child care, maternity clothes, travel, and other costs
  • Compensation for the carrier
  • Future contact/relationship between the parties
  • Confidentiality
  • ….and much more!

(This article is not intended as legal advice and should not be relied upon as such. Each family and agreement is unique, so you should hire a competent attorney to advise you specifically about your particular case.)